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Sunday, 17 June 2012

Perspective ....

* Make it what you want *

This blog post is a little off my usual content ...... but its important for me to share ..... if not for you, then for me!!    A strange thing happened to me on Thursday last week.  I have not long started losing weight (again!) and I have just begun to feel like I am getting somewhere.  OK, so its only 4.2lb, but I have been making good food choices, going out running, going swimming, this time I have been making a real commitment to it.

Its happiness weight that I am losing- the weight that I put on when spending some lovely time with my husband out dining, or home baking.  But of late it has got me quite sad. 

So my clothes are just beginning to loosen, 1/4 of a stone is just enough to make clothes begin to feel better.  I was feel happy that I was DOING IT. Making a change.

But then, I was off to a hen weekend and the theme was 'corsets'..... Being a rather busty lady I picked up a second hand bustier that would go under a dress. .... I don't want it all out on show!  So Thursday night saw me trying on all my dresses in my wardrobe. 

The size 14 ebay dress I bought, too small.

My size 12 wardrobe pieces, far too small.

I felt like a beached whale in what should have been fun and slinky dresses.  I looked like a pregnant fish.  

Suddenly I forgot all about my recent successes and new commitment-  I forgot that I am actually doing something about my weight now.  All I felt was a complete failure, and an unattractive one to boot.  How could the day end up feeling like that, when I had felt great in the morning after going out for a one hour and a half walk??

PERSPECTIVE.  If we always look at things from the inside out, our emotions colour how we view events.  If I was talking to myself as a friend, I would say...

Well done, you are doing something about it NOW, that's what matters.  The dresses will fit in the summer, yes its a shame they don't fit for your big night out, but its not a reason to to be unkind to yourself, or to give up.

So heeding my own words, I am sat with a cup of tea, reflecting on my day.


* Make it what you want *

Be kind to yourself, and treat yourself like you would your bestest friend.... and see what happens :)

I know I will be giving it a bash!

Shelly X


  1. I'm sorry it's taken me a while to respond to this post, dear Shelly. I haven't been on the computer much lately. I've had sinusitis for 5 weeks, and the latest manifestation has left me with what feels like the worst toothache EVER for 5 days. It's driving me crazy, and I'm finding it hard to concentrate on anything. Hence, not much blog-following.
    This is a really great post. I can sympathise with SO MUCH of what you're saying here. I think you're doing a fabulous job with losing weight (I NEED to do some bikini-dieting, but keep putting it off 'til I feel back-to normal). We should feel proud of all our achievements and, as you put it so perfectly, think about what we'd say to (and think about) friends in similar situations!!!
    Keep at it. And let's hear more about it - maybe you can motivate me to get a move on with the bikini plans..... ;-)

    1. You made my day when I read this :D Thank you! Its nice to know that I am writing, and what I have to say is heard! Sometimes when blog writing I'm never sure if its just for me! (That might be another post in itself!)

      Hope you are feeling better, and that you are feeling back to your old self again



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